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Before Time Outs - JoAnne Loper's article is Winter NPN Newsletter

2011-12-06T14:18:00.000-06:00

JoAnne's article is in the Winter NPN Newletter that just came in the mail.

BEFORE TIME OUTS

Strong-willed children tend to start listening more when parents’ attention is positive. Also, giving

specificity to behaviors you want to increase is more effective than simply saying “good job.” Some families need to do more

to change bad behavior, but acknowledgement and praise is the foundation that must be in place before other behavior

management tools can be effective.

Three critical behaviors to acknowledge in your children are making good choices, being a good listener and being safe.

Successful practice of these behaviors will remain important in every stage of your child’s life.

Parents often ask, “How can I stop my child from hitting/jumping on the couch/whining or crying to get his way, etc.?”

Often, these parents are surprised at the answer. It’s not, “Usetime outs effectively” or “Make sure your child understands the

consequences of misbehavior.” Rather than the consequence, or even the misbehavior itself, parents should focus on noticing

and praising the good behavior, however rare it might seem. Parents also should try to understand what motivates their

child to cooperate or follow rules; since you can’t motivate after a bad behavior, this requires you to be one step ahead of

the kids. To begin with, it’s best for parents to examine what precedes and follows their child’s good behaviors.

Specific praise first

An important first step in changing bad behavior is to always acknowledge the good behavior, or “reinforce” the

behaviors you want to see more often.

• When your child holds your hand and cooperatively gets

into her car seat, say, “Holding my hand and getting into the

car nicely shows that you know how to be safe!”

• When your child follows a direction on the first request: “I

appreciate that you listened quickly.”

• When your child calmly picks between the sweatshirt and

the sweater: “That’s a good choice.”

• When you notice that your children are playing together

nicely (i.e., not fighting, screaming, jumping on the furniture,

etc.): “You guys are playing so nicely together.”

Tuesday’s Child provides programming for families across the Chicagoland area,

utilizing a unique parent training model and a child center where professional

staff reinforce parenting techniques and promote school readiness. JoAnne Loper,

director of parent training at Tuesday’s Child, has four boys ages 13 to 25.

JoAnne Loper facebook post -- good catch JoAnne!

2011-11-18T10:39:00.001-06:00

Hi friends and alumni!
The Today Show (CBS morning show) aired a segment on “How to Tame Your Tot’s Tantrum”. A Yale University Research-based study recommends parent training! Teaching parents to praise appropriate behavior, thus teaching children how to how to react when disappointed, frustrated and angry!!! Does this sound familiar??
All of us who have been “catching our child being good” for years can pat ourselves on our back and say “Good job attending Tuesday’s Child!”

In Support of Waiting on Kindergarten

2011-09-22T13:34:00.000-05:00

The Neighborhood Parents Network is making an effort to get CPS to allow kids with IEPs, including social/emotional delays, to start Kindergarten at age 6. In support of their effort, Tuesday's Child, sent this letter.

To Whom It May Concern:

Tuesday’s Child supports the concept of children entering kindergarten at the age of six. We believe offering a developmentally appropriate curriculum to children provides them with the necessary tools for continued school success.

In 2003 the Illinois Children’s Mental Health Task Force stated that one forth to one third of children entering kindergarten do not have the necessary skills to succeed in school, and a 2005 Yale University study estimated that more than 5,000 U.S. preschoolers are expelled each year – a rate three times higher than in elementary or high school.

There are children who need to spend additional time focused on the practical school readiness skills that preschool provides. The preschool years emphasize and nurture increasing attention span, understanding rules and following directions. Practicing the art of conversation is another social goal for a preschooler, as is the art of taking turns or asking for permission. Sharing the teacher's attention is an important pre-requisite to kindergarten. Circle time is a time for preschoolers to practice and learn how to be inclusive, to sit patiently and hear about the key parts of his/her day. Tuesday’s Child believes that for children with social/emotional delays, having an extra year to foster these skills greatly improves their ability to be life-long learners.

Sincerely,

Katherine Conklin, M.Ed Jo Anne Loper

Program Director Director of Parent Education

Introducing Tuesday's Parent

2011-07-19T14:27:00.001-05:00

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Tuesday's Child tips for Summer Activities

2011-07-05T11:58:00.000-05:00

As parents, we are overwhelmed with options for summer activities. In the parent magazines, on the Internet, and on television we see ads for beaches, waterparks, museums, and other play places. We also see opportunities for mini- or full blown vacations in Lake Geneva, Wisconsin Dells, Indiana Dunes, etc. But what is your child has a hard time participating in these types of activities? Or, what if a simple trip to the local park often ends in disaster? This can make the summertime options daunting.

Summer is the time of year that its easiest for “forget” some of the positive parenting concepts taught at Tuesday’s Child. One of the most important of those is predictability, that children often do best when things are predictable, and they know (in advance) what’s on the schedule. So, if mom or dad suggests and impromptu trip to the beach on a hot day, their kids may not rush to put on those bathing suits.

Some of the basic concept taught at Tuesday’s Child can be used to take the “dread” out of summer and make it possible to successfully do all those activities we see in the magazines.

Antecedent Planning is the most important concept to deal with the unpredictability of summer. Plan summer activities with your child’s challenges in mind. It might be that taking an extra snack, or planning a shorter trip, or walking instead of driving is all it takes for success at the beach. It’s also a good idea that your child know “the plan” in advance. So, set a schedule for the week, post it on a calendar the kids can see, and tell them each night about the next day’s plan.

Of course, using reinforcers, goal plans, and, of course, praise will go a long way towards having trouble-free outings.

Tuesday's on Tuesday - July 12, 2011

2011-07-05T11:47:00.001-05:00

A "brown bag lunch" discussion with experts in child development and parent coaching from Tuesday's Child

Do you have a child who...
- Won't stay in bed at night..
- Takes FOREVER to get ready in the morning…
- Makes me dread going to the grocery store…
- Doesn't seem to hear when asked to do something (anything)…

Or do you know someone who does?

When

Tuesday July 12, 2011
12:00 -1:30 PM
Bring your own lunch and beverages.
Dessert provided.

Where

Hosted by Fiscal Management Associaties
29 South LaSalle, Ste 1130, Chicago, IL
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Register

Registration Fee: $15
Register Online

Support Tuesday's Child - Prepare for the Summer!

2011-02-22T13:30:00.000-06:00

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To see a selection of t-shirts and beach towels, visit:
http://www.unclejerrystees.com/

To order, download an online order form here:
http://www.tuesdayschildchicago.org/documents/2011_Order_Form.pdf

Please fax a completed form back to us at (773) 282-5358. Thank you for your support!

New Website

2011-02-03T16:35:00.000-06:00

Tuesday's Child is proud to roll-out a new and improved website located at tuesdayschildchicago.org. This new site will allow you to better connect to programs, updates and other information.

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2011-02-02T11:38:00.000-06:00

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